“I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that - I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep”, and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. Ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.”—Hugh Mackay (via quotesforintellectuals)
“You are the only person who is in charge of how you feel about yourself. Nobody else can possibly do that. You get to decide if you believe you are beautiful or not, and nobody can take it away from you. If someone suggests that you aren’t beautiful, you can consider how sad it is that they have…
“Some people live in cages with bars built from their own fears and doubts. Some people live in cages with bars built from other people’s fears and doubts; their parents, their friends, their brothers and sisters, their families. Some people live in cages with bars built from the choices others made for them, the circumstances other people imposed upon them. And some people break free.”—C. JoyBell C (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
we as a society need to start talking about abusive friendships, bc those exist and seem to be really common
and most people in them dont know how do deal w the abuse bc its normally emotional abuse which.gets delegitimized, and its a platonic relationship and not a romo or sexual one, so it gets delegitimized for that too
“I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.
Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?””—
P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”
From 2000 to 2012, American workers as a whole had a tough time, as population grew much faster than new jobs and many people gave up looking for work. There was one major exception: jobs paying $100,000 to $400,000 (in 2012…
I’m unemployed. I apply for things with referrals from really great people, without referrals, with cover letters and without and then I wait. And I wait and I wait. And companies don’t call. Or they do and I get my stuff together, and I go in for interviews.
And then I don’t get the jobs. In most cases I’m never told why. And I go back to applying for jobs.
And in the meantime, I make my jewelry and some of it sells. It brings in some money. Not enough to pay the bills, but some. And I’m grateful for that.
What is amazing are all of the artists that are trying to “make their art pay the bills” and think it’s this noble thing they’re doing and refuse to go out and get real jobs or even try because that would mean they were “conforming to the demands of the man”. Then they go out and start a crowd funding campaign to help pay their bills and the most amazing part is people give them money! But if you ask those very same people to pay you for a skill or talent you have they suddenly don’t have the money. Why is that? Can someone please explain why people are willing to blindly give money to someone online to “pay their bills” while getting no tangible proof that’s actually what their money is being used for but when you offer them a tangible product/service for their money they suddenly don’t have it?
It'd be super rad if you guys could reevaluate your shipping prices. shipping is always like $10. it shouldn't cost $10 to ship 1 crew neck from Cali to Oregon. thanks Xx
Everything is weight (based off the product weight + packaging weight) and location based with our store. All of our rates are generated by USPS’s APIs.
A sweatshirt would be too heavy for First Class, and can not be shipped via Media Mail and sadly Priority mail isn’t the cheapest of options - but the USPS are lowering priority rates for various weight groups starting next month, mainly in the 5 lb or heavier packages though.
We are looking into offering a few other options but at this time they are not ready yet.
We are also trying to work out some other INTL shipping options with some carriers to make it more affordable for those overseas. Fingers crossed.